Are funerals for those who remain or for the dead?
Do we honour their wishes, even if we are uncomfortable with them?
Do we include prayers because they offer us comfort even if we haven't been to church for years?
What did the departed want us to do... exactly?
Do we have a public funeral so that anyone can attend even though we would prefer it to be private?
Questions like these mean that arranging a funeral can be such a stressful time. Regardless of weather we knew it was coming or not, death is rarely easy to deal with, especially in our western society. It would be a wonderful thing if we embraced a funeral tradition that allowed us to fully express our feelings of grief and loss, while at the same time honouring and celebrating the dead
During this time when feelings are raw and there is so much to arrange it is comforting to have a kind professional
to assist you and guide you through the planning of the funeral service.
You can choose the celebrant of your choice to perform a funeral. Most of the funerals I have conducted have been for people I knew or for those who knew me from family weddings, name givings or other rites.
I specialise in writing funerals with those of you who would like to arrange your own service before you die. This allows us to select the words, readings and music that are most appropriate and meaningful to you. You can relax knowing your funeral will be as you wish it to be. This can be especially helpful for those whose beliefs are different to their loved ones or who are estranged from their families or who have very particular requirements. I find this a very special experience and am honoured to have written funerals with some truely wonderful human beings.
Please contact me to discuss your requirements for funeral arrangements.